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2023.06.05 09:49 Hells_Belle224 AITA For asking my husband to sleep in our bed

AITA For askingmy husband to sleep in bed?
My (25f) husband (27 M) and I have been together for 5 years married for two, Hes always been into gaming and started with a playstation 4 when we first got together. When we got our first place together he decided to build his own PC to play games better. Our first apartment was small so his gaming stuff was always in our room. For context my love language is quality time and as soon as he got his PC it consued all of his time outside of work. I didnt mind much when it was in our room and I was still able to be around him while he played if I wanted to. During this time he got into streaming and quickly bacame a twitch affiliate meaning he sometimes get some money from the app for his live streams. Definitly not enough to pay the bill but enough for the upkeep of his PC and stream to keep the quality up. We since have moved and gotten married and now more than ever he is locked in the living room playing on his PC all day and more often than not all night. I asked at the beggining when we decided on his stuff being in the living room that he play after work and do what he wants as long as he comes to bed at night. I am not exegerating when I say he does not move from his game chair unless he has to. before work, after work, days off all consumed by his games. Lately weve been arguing because I continue to ask him to come to bed and end up upset and angry when I wake up for work and hes still in the living room at his computer. He sleeps in bed only after an all nighter when he physically can not stay up all night even then he falls asleep in the living room still trying to get some rounds in. Hes always complaining his back hurts, his head and jaw hurt, he always feels sick but gets upset when I try and tell him its probably due to his constant screen time and how he sits in the same chair hour and hours each day. This weekend we had a blow up. I again asked him to come to bed and he got mad saying im not his mom and cannot create bed time rules for an adult. He said I am acting annoying and dont understand his reasoning for playing all the time. I understand he needs his time to escape reality and the stress of work but I also need time with him to feel supported. AITA for asking him to come to bed with me?
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2023.06.05 09:49 Thetrader2896 I am a Leo, Cap Moon and Sagg rising, this girl was a double Pisces and Sagg rising. I need therapy.

First off, are Pisces known as being so sensitive to everything? Defensive about stuff too? Anyway, the story is underneath.
So guys, I knew this girl from 2019, she got married and got divorced. She happens to move here in mid jan and hit me up on Facebook. We grabbed coffee, and from there we slept together on Valentine's Day. After that, we stopped talking because she wanted to end it. I called her and we hang out again. Go to the movies and the next day she says it again. End of March we talk for 4 hours in person and she called me saying she is getting serious with someone. So I attacked her flaws, called her hairy, said she looked like a bum around me. For god sake, her EX husband didnt want to have sex with her because she weighed too much, but I did. We talk a few times in April, in May. She called me May 7, we grab food. Then that night she asked for a relationship, I rejected it because she rejected me before. Next day I call because I honestly felt bad and we had sex in a hotel room.
Then the next day she called me "evil" because I wanted her to take a plan b. From there I text her the following, "I never loved, I never thought you were attractive, I hung out with you because I petty you". Plus I told her to wear more makeup next time. Now she has for a month, I saw her today and we wanted to end it in person, we made out and stuff. Then life topics came up and I say "You couldn't satisfy your husband and failed as a wife" I said I failed at things in life too and that is the harsh reality. Did she use me in any way? Was I rude to her???? I always felt like she was selfish in many ways and only used me. I got ugly at times and I hope the pain I have done doesn't last too long, we are and were too toxic for me.
At least I gave her what her ex-husband couldn't. Things honestly didn't get ugly till plan B. Her ex-husband forced her to an IUD and pills due to depression. That was messed up. I am a leo and she was a Pisces (never again). I think I was always harsh when the rejection came into play, we both agreed we are both great friends. After this argument, I am done. we need to leave each other alone
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2023.06.05 09:49 0ptimusWall POTUS concession speech

Ladies and gentlemen,
Today, I stand before you with a heavy heart, a heart burdened by the weight of an electoral defeat that has left me disappointed and disheartened. But in the spirit of sportsmanship and respect for the democratic process, I must extend my sincere congratulations to my opponent, Dan Marino. While I may be upset by the outcome, I cannot deny the will of the people and the decision they have made.
First and foremost, I want to commend Mr. Marino on a well-fought campaign. He has shown dedication, passion, and a deep commitment to the ideals and values that he believes will benefit our great nation. Although we may have had differing visions for the future, I recognize the efforts he put into engaging with voters, addressing their concerns, and advocating for his policies.
It is important for us to remember that elections are not just about winning or losing, but about participating in the democratic process and giving voice to the diverse perspectives and aspirations of our citizens. Throughout this campaign, I have witnessed the enthusiasm and energy of the American people, their fervent belief in the power of democracy, and their desire for a better tomorrow. These are the values that make our nation strong, and I have faith that they will continue to guide us forward.
While I am disappointed in the outcome, I do not let this setback define me or my commitment to public service. The will of the people is a powerful force, and I humbly accept their decision. I will continue to work tirelessly in whatever capacity I can to serve the American people and strive toward the betterment of our society.
Lastly, I want to express my heartfelt gratitude to all my supporters, volunteers, and campaign staff who dedicated their time, energy, and resources to our cause (Darth, Canuk, Connor, Sans, Basedman, etc). Your unwavering support and belief in me have been a source of strength throughout this journey. Remember that our fight does not end here. Let us channel our disappointment into constructive actions that bring positive change to our communities, and let us continue to engage in the democratic process that is the bedrock of our nation.
In conclusion, while I may be upset by the results of this election, I congratulate Dan Marino on his victory. May he serve our nation with honor, compassion, and a steadfast commitment to the well-being of every American citizen. Let us come together as a nation, set aside our differences, and work towards a brighter future.
Thank you, and may God bless America!
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2023.06.05 09:48 Liopha How do you live with family members who don't seem to care?

I am looking for some advice from an emotional-support perspective rather than a practical perspective.
I went out with my family yesterday. Being immunocompromised, I normally don't (i.e. can't) go out much. But my grandma, whom we don't get to see often and haven't seen in five years, is visiting and really wanted to do something together. The family and I decided we would go to an outdoor shopping arcade, where there are indoor shops (for them to enjoy) but also ample open-air areas (for me if needed).
Of the family members yesterday, two live with me, and two don't. Grandma is also staying with me during her visit. The family members I live with, along with Grandma, are elderly and would typically mask up in public spaces. The two I don't live with are younger and wear baggy blues sparingly.
At the beginning of the shopping trip, everyone was still properly masked, but for some odd reason, one by one took off their protection. As it was happening, I spoke up about it but was brushed off in the moment with phrases like, "It's fine," or "I just want to smell the aroma (in the bakery)."
The unmasking frenzy started with the two I don't live with, which did not come as a surprise. I'm okay with that. I respect their way of life and can make do with it since I don't have to share a living space with them in the end of the day. But I was appalled by how the elderlies whom I trusted, and whom I live with, also followed suit. And I have a problem with that because they live with me and should know better. I feel betrayed. And it hurts seeing that they don't care enough about me to stay protected.
What baffles me the most is that they would take off their masks indoors where there were clearly unmasked people near them but would then pull them back up outside. I'm so confused. These are folks who would normally complain to me about people not masking, so I don't know what was going on yesterday. Most of the shoppers and staff at the shopping arcade were maskless, so perhaps that messed with their judgement? I don't have a clue.
But anyways, as a result of their behavior and their unnecessary exposure, I will now be confined to my room at home for the next little while. It's my only way to protect myself after the fact because they've refused to make any accommodation such as wearing a mask or divvying up our living space so we can all live comfortably while keeping distance. Worse yet, they seem perfectly ok with me having very limited access to the kitchen (i.e. food) and the bathroom because I apparently "made this a problem when it's not". I can only use those spaces after they have gone to bed and have vacated the area. It's very demoralizing, but there's nothing I can do because after all, they have the right to do what they want.
It feels like I'm being punished for wanting to protect my health - is this feeling valid? Are any of my feelings valid? Everyone at home is treating me like I'm nuts for feeling bothered by yesterday's incident and for thinking my wellbeing is at risk. I feel so defeated and am starting to second think: Am I wrong for feeling upset about my family's behavior yesterday? Am I overreacting for wanting to keep some distance after the fact? Am I really "just too pessimistic" about my health and the whole Covid situation like they say I am? It also prompted me to wonder if they normally behave like this when I'm not around. Like how many times did they expose me to risks in the past without my knowledge? Am I being unreasonably paranoid? I can't keep my head from swimming. How do I stay sane as I live out the next few days in isolation?
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2023.06.05 09:48 JJ_Lairiel21 Erasmus Plus Lithuania

Erasmus Plus Lithuania
7 unforgettable and unique days during which I was able to meet new people, got acquainted with the culture, dances and songs of different countries. With the help of the group work my English got better, learned new words from different countries, got acquainted with various environmental problems, the solution of which we were able to find together. I love you very much and I hope that our connection will never break, and I will meet you in different parts of the world.






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2023.06.05 09:47 beetzaman 24M - Loner from the UK seeking a real friendship! [Friendship]

Hello and welcome to my post 👋 I am currently looking to form a genuine and serious friendship with the right person, so that we can talk daily, exchange bits about our lives, keep eachother company, help and support eachother, and rant about nonsensical nonsense occasionally. Ideally, I’d like to find someone also from the UK, of similar age/point in their life, and with similar interests/hobbies, as I believe it will allow us to better relate to eachother. However if you aren’t any of that but still want to reach out, please do so!!
I’d love something real and serious. I am going to be putting in a lot of effort into a potential friendship. I just want a serious and genuine friendship, even if it is just online, where we treat eachother with respect and as real friends and not just a casual texting buddy that you can throw away when you get bored or disinterested.
A bit about me! Currently I work remotely from home as a software engineer. It’s pretty cool, as I am an introvert anyway and love being at home in my happy and safe space. It also gives me lots of freetime to do things that I like. When I am not working, I enjoy reading, drawing, playing on my Nintendo Switch or PC, or working on personal projects. Recently, my most played games have been Tears of the Kingdom and Overwatch. I’ve also been working on my own mobile app recently, but it isn’t a serious project and is more so a learning project!!
It would be awesome if you were also into Switch/PC games, as I think gaming is a great way to form a friendship since we can play together and share our progress, thoughts, and opinions about our favourite games.
I’d really love to make a friend to talk to, as I currently do not have anyone and I do get rather lonely sometimes. I just want someone who is there for me, and also someone that I can be there for them when they need me!
Thanks for reading!! If you are interested, please send me a DM! I have Discord, so if we connect well, we could perhaps move there if you were comfortable with doing so.
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2023.06.05 09:46 beetzaman 24M - Loner from the UK seeking a real friendship!

Hello and welcome to my post 👋 I am currently looking to form a genuine and serious friendship with the right person, so that we can talk daily, exchange bits about our lives, keep eachother company, help and support eachother, and rant about nonsensical nonsense occasionally. Ideally, I’d like to find someone also from the UK, of similar age/point in their life, and with similar interests/hobbies, as I believe it will allow us to better relate to eachother. However if you aren’t any of that but still want to reach out, please do so!!
I’d love something real and serious. I am going to be putting in a lot of effort into a potential friendship. I just want a serious and genuine friendship, even if it is just online, where we treat eachother with respect and as real friends and not just a casual texting buddy that you can throw away when you get bored or disinterested.
A bit about me! Currently I work remotely from home as a software engineer. It’s pretty cool, as I am an introvert anyway and love being at home in my happy and safe space. It also gives me lots of freetime to do things that I like. When I am not working, I enjoy reading, drawing, playing on my Nintendo Switch or PC, or working on personal projects. Recently, my most played games have been Tears of the Kingdom and Overwatch. I’ve also been working on my own mobile app recently, but it isn’t a serious project and is more so a learning project!!
It would be awesome if you were also into Switch/PC games, as I think gaming is a great way to form a friendship since we can play together and share our progress, thoughts, and opinions about our favourite games.
I’d really love to make a friend to talk to, as I currently do not have anyone and I do get rather lonely sometimes. I just want someone who is there for me, and also someone that I can be there for them when they need me!
Thanks for reading!! If you are interested, please send me a DM! I have Discord, so if we connect well, we could perhaps move there if you were comfortable with doing so.
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2023.06.05 09:46 Rikku-chan28 How tf do you make friends as an adult?!

Like seriously, I know I have stuff in common with most people and if we were to hang out we could do soo much together, but why is it so hard to make friends?? Like I know peoples life get busy or theyre too tired to hang out or whatever, but idc if you dont have all the energy to be entertaining or whatever, I just want someone to talk to and socialize with :(
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2023.06.05 09:45 MarcL97 Can a Gay M-M 30 year age difference work?

I met a man a few days ago. We haven't spent a lot of time together - just casually getting to know each other slowly. I think I may be falling in love with him. I think he might feel the same about me. However, he is 30 years my junior.
There's definitely a connection between us. Emotional, not just physical. We've had some serious conversations about our lives and things we value. We both GENUINELY agree on what's important in a relationship (trust, communication, loyalty, etc.) He says he wants an LTR with me. I'm trying not to say yes or no. I'm thinking the age difference is probably too big and this relationship just has no real chance, as an LTR.
Please help. What do you guys think?
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2023.06.05 09:45 BlondeLockett Parenting order

I placed a parenting order on my sons father 6 years ago and now he suddenly wants to be in his life. Can some explain the process or who I can talk to about this. I don’t recall details but there was an organization they were supposed to meet at for supervised visits. Please help, I do not want a relationship with his father in any shape or form, as he was abusive while we were together those years ago and I have a restraining order on him
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2023.06.05 09:44 BrilliantLow20 26M asked 20F way too early to be GF

So I met this girl at work 2-3 months ago, and at first we were friends. But then we both started to get to know each other, I could tell she liked me and I liked her back . We exchanged numbers, we've talked on the phone for 7+ hours, game together etc, and have a surprising amount of things in common. She's even told me that she talks about me to her family and wants me to meet her uncles, auntie and dad. Tonight was our official first date, I took her out to eat, we mate out in the car and for SOME REASON I asked her to be my gf because Idk why I felt the moment was right but I did it anyways. We honestly like each other a lot and have great chemistry (I have never felt this way with the past girls I've dated) We have another date tomorrow afternoon, but idk if I should bring up that it's too early or just play it out... Is it too early?
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2023.06.05 09:44 UneducatedGrey (Need some critique on how to improve this essay and what went wrong) Three reasons why I hate thieves

(Sooo I got inspired by Mattias Philde's why I hate wizards and got inspired on creating my own, I'm still a beginner and writing this is a bit difficult so I'm searching for some critique. I think the beginning lacks more meat what can I do to put some fluff on it? Part 3 and the conclusion doesn't really make sense but I don't know how to fix it, do you have suggestions? What exactly went wrong on part 3 because I can't pin point it, it just doesn't "feel" right. Sorry for bad grammar, I have yet to study grammar. Currently finding some time to study it but I'm quite busy but I'll find time! I just did this for fun! I like to make essay writing a hobby so yeah.. that's all.)
Thieves, the vicious bastards who always gets into trouble and makes you end up bailing them out of it. Carlos still owe me 200 gold coins and now he's missing.
I hate thieves with passion and this are my reasons why.
  1. Thieves or either edgy or or full on themselves, no in between
Seriously? Thieves are either depressed bag of eyeliners or too full or themselves. They listen to Evanescence and MCR and always always complain about the unfairness of the world and once you ask them to be specific about the problems they complain about, they end saying "You don't understand me," and go on to ignore you.
This has happened to me with a new thief on the team. His other eye was hidden by long dyed bangs, he bought a spell on the wizard shop to make his eyes glow red despite! Not having any particular use of it! He always complain about everything and when something good happens to the team, his response is always "Happiness doesn't last.." and he would tell you why it doesn't matter because we're all speck of dust in the end.
I tried to be understanding, of course, that what healers do. But the more I listen to him, the more I realize that damn.. his family didn't love him.
Same goes with our previous thief, Carlos, the one that went missing. He's always full of himself, he's always out gambling and getting into arguments with people. But the bastard doesn't listen when I told him to put his ego down. He'd rather be beaten than to lower his pride.
It's easy to judge, but if you're in my position, you'll do it too.
  1. They love to lie
Our previous thief, Carlos. He has a way with speech which the new thief lacks. But this guy... This guy is just hateable.
He loves to make promises, makes you believe in the future that wouldn't happen. He even brought me a ring and told me how "great" I am and how I'm so... I'm afraid that's a bit personal so I won't add it. Carlos has a way with words, likes to make promises he wouldn't fulfill and loves to gamble.
Because he's my "friend", I always bail him out of trouble because that's what friends do. I bail him out, makes excuses about his actions, he says sorry and then the cycle repeats. It continued for a while that only ended when... He met the Baron's daughter. And... It... I'm not going to go on specific detail but Carlos went missing before the Baron's daughter's wedding, coincidentally she went missing too... Together with 200 gold coins he said was a payment to the casino. I... Was hurt.
  1. They don't have god in them.
I've always told Carlos to participate in the church but the idiot always jokes about how he'll burn. Same thing with the new thief. I always remind them to be god fearing because in this life that we have, we don't know when death will come. And because of the dangerous adventures that we have, we might end up losing few limbs, or friends. And it sucks. Sometimes we need something to anchor us from all the suffering and pain.
God can help us heal.
But they don't listen. I understand. People have different beliefs and different reactions to the things that is happening around them. We can only pray and hope God can help us deal with it.
The thing with thieves is that their lack of God concerns me. I'm a bit worried about them, they love to preach about love and peace without actually putting an effort to understand it.
I care about Carlos and the newbie, but sometimes... Well most of the times, their actions hurt me. I understand that they're probably going to tough times but it doesn't mean you have to be a dick.
In the end, I'll pray for them.
In conclusion, People might love thieves and I get that they're complicated people. But because of their baggage, they end up hurting people around them. Of course we need to be understanding but there's a difference in being understanding and being an enabler. Hope this post helps.
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2023.06.05 09:43 dumpydump69 haven't had sex in 2 months, celebrating our one year anniversary next week

my gf (23F) and I (24F) haven't had sex in two months. we've only been together for less than a year, and it's already gone bone dry. I heard about lesbian death bed, but i didn't think it would come for us so soon.
We had incredible sex when we first started dating, but it dwindled after 6 months or so. I stopped initiating sex two months ago, and we haven't done much since then. I don't like feeling like I'm pressuring her, so I stopped. She says she feels guilty about not having sex and not initiating, so of course I tell her I only want to have sex with her when she wants to and don't want to pressure her.
but I am feeling really bummed out about it. I miss the intimacy we had. We did move really quick with our relationship, and we moved in together a week ago. I genuinely love her and think she's the best, but yeah I'm pretty numbed out.
On the upside, I'm excited for our year anniversary! i made her a cute little animation and I'm excited to see her reaction to it.
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2023.06.05 09:43 Future-Problem8395 Boyfriend [39 M] blew up at me [29 F] because I didn't feel like hearing his opinions on politics / feminists / LGBTQ+ community / minority groups / mental health. I know I should leave him but it is so difficult. What do I do?

We have been together on and off since December 2020, and my boyfriend (M39) thinks I’m a psychotic narcissist.
I (F29) said to my boyfriend, “Can we just stop debating and enjoy the food? I really just want to have a nice meal. It’s been a long day and I’m tired, I just want to zone out for a bit.” HE FLIPPED. He said that I’m incapable of having an intellectual conversation and I’m defensive about everything; that he is able to have conversations like these with anyone else and it will be fine but it is impossible to do so with me.
I don’t like how he speaks to me. It’s been the source of our arguments - he speaks so aggressively and he raises his voice, but he refuses to acknowledge it. I don’t know if he genuinely doesn’t see it or if he just doesn’t want to accept it, but each time I tell him to speak to me kindly, he blows up. He then went in to the bedroom, slammed the door in my face and after a while, he came out and told me to head (to my own) home, and then I will know what it is like to miss him. He went to bed and I lost my appetite to eat, so I cleared everything up and got ready for bed. I joined him, but he got up and left to go sleep on the couch instead.
After a few hours, I went outside to wake him up. I didn’t even touch him and I was speaking gently, but his reaction was super dramatic (as if I’m a burglar standing over him with a knife) and he told me to go. As I was walking away I heard him mutter “psychopath” - I stood by the doorway asking him to repeat himself a few times but didn’t receive a response, so I just went to bed.
This morning, I greeted him good morning and I didn’t get a reply, so I just continued getting ready for work. As I was about to leave, he told me again that I should go, and I said, “I’m heading to work, you want me to bring all my things NOW? Is that something you want or will make you feel better?” He turned it against me and said that I could have said no, I don’t want to go, but instead I’m asking him. I said I heard him call me a psychopath and he just EXPLODED. He said he didn’t want to engage with me, that what he actually said was “This is your path.”
I’m just ???!!!!
So, he is kicking me out of his house AGAIN (he tends to do it a lot, and I always end up begging and crying) for the millionth time, and I’m just really, really ashamed and disappointed at myself and not looking forward to the end of the work day when I have to return to his house, because I know that there is going to be another explosive argument waiting for me.
(My things are all at his house. I’m practically living there although I do have a place of my own.)
TL;DR Boyfriend blew up at me because I didn’t feel like hearing his monologue on his opinions on politics / feminists / LGBTQ+ community / minority groups / mental health
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2023.06.05 09:43 EggplantFister I (21m) am rethinking my relationship with my girlfriend (20f) right before we move in together. Do I break up?

So for context. Me and my gf have been dating for a little more than 2 years. We are both in hometown and to this point living with our parents. She's been going to city college and doing some part time jobs while I dropped out long ago and working full time at various jobs. A big thing that gets talked about between us is next steps in life, for at least a year we've thought northern Cali was a good move. I have some friends up there and more moving this summer while the school is one that's good for her degree she's been aiming for. Plus I thought it'd be good if I finally restarted college when we moved.
Earlier today we had a big talk. This weekend while I've been off at work it seems she's been thinking a lot about life. She told me she was having second thoughts about moving (more that particular town) and not even sure if she wants to pursue the profession / degree. This part didn't bother me too much but it seemed like she wanted to delay leaving our hometown in general. The second half of our discussion hurt more. It's an issue I think both have been ignoring or pushing off for some time. Especially since I've been working 2 jobs lately and her finishing some hard classes.
We have an intimacy problem. I truly understand that we have different levels of sex drive and I especially realize that my sex drive is high in general. Just like nothing happens between us anymore. Maybe every 3 or 4 months something sexual comes around. Today though she was saying that she just doesn't enjoy it. She felt like there's a lost spark in her. I tried some questions to find if there's a core issue but she can't place why. I don't know if she's just lost all sexuality for a while or it's only with me. This is not a new thing btw It really got me thinking we aren't at the same place in our lives. I get her having second thoughts about such a huge decision and change, I'm ready. +The steady decline of affection is pretty bad. I'm at a loss, I really love this girl
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2023.06.05 09:42 fairyfukcs my(20F) boyfriend (23M) won’t accept the fact he cheated

Over a month ago me and my boyfriend had a big fight, we almost broke up but didn’t and I thought we had come to a resolution. That night he went out with all of our friends, I was meant to go but decided I was against it being too upset and shaken up. For the time he was going out drinking he decided to go no contact which triggered me a lot, I was calling his phone and trying to get in contact to just talk to me but he told me he was silencing his notifications and that was that.
We see each other the next day and everything is back to normal for a couple weeks until he comes home from work and admits to kissing one of our close friends sisters whilst out that night he wouldn’t talk to me. Obviously I was devastated he would do something like that to me and then hid it from me for weeks whilst continuing to sleep with me and have me dog sit alone for his parents. Everyone else in our friendship group knew (as they had been there that night) and pressured him into telling me. His reason for not coming forward sooner was due to my mental state at the time; I’ve been struggling a lot with depression and suicidal thoughts so I had to live with my parents for a bit and started medication.
Due to me being deeply in love with him I decided to forgive and continue our relationship, we were rocky but getting through it together and until yesterday had hope we’d make it through this together. Yesterday conversations came up about how he has lost all his friends because of what he did to me. We shared a friend group which is how we even met and got together. My only response was he did it to himself and his own actions caused others to cut him out of their lives. This begins an argument where he admits to not believing he actually cheated on me as he “didn’t think we were still in a relationship after the fight”. He only ever apologised and called it cheating because he thought it was what I would want to hear in order to stay with him.
I don’t understand how he could think we weren’t together when I was contacting him and we never even verbalised not being together. I’m truly at a loss that he can’t accept what he did, and I don’t know how to progress knowing he will never truly be sorry as he adamantly believes what he did wasn’t cheating. All he has to say is I wasn’t there that night so I don’t even know what happened and I’m choosing not to see his side. What side is there even to see?? Why is he acting this way, what is his reasoning to not understand what he has done?
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2023.06.05 09:41 TheRealJ33BUS My Ex ( 24 ) and I ( 27 ) broke up last week and now she wants to try again…

So literally around this time last year I met this girl ( I was trying to go after her best friend but after some drama long story short we started to date ) and everything was okay I guess, she had just got out of a 5 year relationship and I just got out of a 7 year one. We took things slow at first and eventually we would have our fights but eventually it turned into every day, like I would forget to text and I’d get an ear full and she’s come over un announced and I’d loose my shit, I’m not claiming either of us were perfect and we did try to fix this issues, I was constantly ask her to go out and do things ( the bar, a walk in the park, grocery shopping) but all she would want to do is watch Disney+ and do the nasty. Eventually in September we went on a 3 week break to see if this would help. Well after we got back together it went back to the same repeat situation, there came a time in December where I asked her to spend a Sunday with me so I could treat her to a spa day as a Christmas gift and when that day came I got ignored all day cause she was “ at her exes visiting her dogs “ I could never ever find out if this was true or not as she wouldn’t let me near him as he would “ move awake and take my dogs “ according to her, anyways on that day I lost it as I spent around $400 on mani pedi reservations and message appointment as during the holidays they weren’t accepting refunds. And we eventually stopped talking for the last week of December, now everything from January to march was okay, things got worked on a bit and I was hopping things would get better, but when march came it was her “ birthday month “ not her birthday so the whole month I was basically on eggshells, she would yell at me if I touched the radio or the thermostat in the car, but yet would let her best friend do whatever to the car, on the day before her bday she didn’t want to go out and do something she just wanted a repeat of Disney+ and fun time, and the next day on her birthday I found out that she was on a party bus with the girl who basically got me hammered by ordering me doubles instead of singles and got black out drunk she took advantage of me. And according to her when I found out I shouldn’t have gotten mad as “ since I haven’t told the cops it didn’t happen “ and yet I said okay and continued to be with her, ever since march it’s been fights over and over and last week we got into an argument as I told her I’m felling distant as we’re not doing anything besides fighting over spilt milk and when it comes to doing other things you do it with other people and so she hung up on me and I didn’t get a call or text until she messaged me 8 hours later saying “ hey I’m almost at my cousins I decided to go there for the weekend “ ( btw her cousin lives 3 hours away ) and so I told her “ if we’re going to have all these fights and not be a couple and you’re just going to run away from me and your problems then I think it’s best if we end this and focus on ourselves “ and so she blocked me and I didn’t know this till the next day when I called and it only rang once when I called so I just accepted the fact. Now follow just a couple hours ago I get a call from a blocked number and it’s her asking if we “ can actually try again “ and that “ things will be different “ but I honestly don’t know what to do as I still have feelings for her but I don’t want the constant fights and feeling like fuck buddies.
TL;DR ~ Me and my ex broke up cause of constant drama and now she wants to try again after a week of being broken up
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2023.06.05 09:41 lanaoftheking 25M I can't seem to make friends + Boyfriend is my only friend and I'm breaking up with him soon probably.

Hey. I've always been extremely shy, which made it hard to make friends thorought school and college. I graduated college over a year ago and I don't have any "close friends" at this point. College and school were easier because I'd pair up with the same people every semester but I'd only talk to them about school stuff. Now that I don't have school as an excuse to hang out with them, I slowly drifted apart from all of them. So, no friends to hang out consistently at least.
I've been dating this guy I met on Tinder almost a year ago. He introduced me to his family and many friends very early on in our relationship and always tried to make me feel like part of all of his friend groups. His friend groups are also amazing. All of them were accepting from the very beginning and are also fun to be around, just like my boyfriend. They (him and his friends) are part of my life now. I work Monday thru Friday and I visit him and his friends over the weekend, which is good because otherwise I wouldn't have anything else to do or anyone else to spend time with.
However, as much as I like him and his friends, our relationship is kind of broken. Long story short, he did questionable things that made me not trust him as a partner anymore. Even though we're still together and have our moments, I can't shake off the thought of breaking up with him, which I honestly think is the best for the two of us. I just can't seem to do it. He's my first "serious" boyfriend.
Problem is, if I leave him, that means I'm on my own... completely alone. I know that at one point we're breaking up so ... what I need advice for is ... Should I stay friends with him? If any of you have healthy relationships with ex boyfriends/girlfriends, what's the best way to break up with them while making sure we don't lose contact? Also, other than that it would be nice to get any type of advice on how to be more social. I'd say I'm socially awkward. It's not that I hate people. I just seem to have problems socializing, especially in group situations. I am that guy who just stays quiet until someone in the group asks something to me specifically. If it's a one on one conversation, most times I just go blank. I just ran out of topics to talk about, which makes people think I'm bored or just absolutely boring.
I'd love to be the type of person who takes initiative in talking to new people and people love to spend time to be with. It'd be nice to know specific actions I can take to progressively become a better conversationalist. THANKS! I'm open to any ideas.
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