I know I shouldn't think about it, but I'm curious. I accidentally passed by my ex at a festival a while ago (or at least I think I did, first time I didn't even notice, second time I saw the booth he works as I walked by but made an effort to ignore it). I didn't see him, but it make me question what he thought. First time I walked through there I was with someone (hence why I didn't notice, I was talking to them) and the second time I was alone. I didn't get nervous when I saw the booth though, and I didn't let it ruin my day, even though I saw the paper hats he gives out to girls he hits on all over the festival (yeah, he's real classy. Insert eyeroll here).
Is it bad that part of me is hoping he felt something? Anything at all? At this point I think I only want him to reach out so I can get closure, know that he read my messages, and that he didn't lie, but I don't think that's happening. So instead I'm left wondering what he thinks when I accidentally pass by. I guess maybe I just want to know that I meant something to him, at least enough to give him some slight twinge of emotion when he sees me.

Under the sink, I only have 9" depth after the disposer, about 32" wide with two doors. Is there a pull-out trash can that can fit in this?

Respect I-No

"This is a stage... there's such a thing called a role. Trash should be stepped on like trash... and those with power bathe in the spotlight, burning. Come now, everyone... the show is about to begin."

Themes: XX XX Boss Theme Xrd -STRIVE-
I-No's origin lies sometime during the hundred-year Crusades that brought humanity to the brink of extinction. During the war, the peoples' desire for a brighter tomorrow was focused on the Backyard (an alternate dimension comprised entirely of living information) and was so strong that it resulted in a single Magical Foci. Thus, the whole of creation was focused into a single organism. The Backyard interpreted this as an error that would destroy the world, and sealed that conscious away in a single human girl's body, placing within it all the irregularities. However, this was the Backyard's first mistake, as the resulting entity was all-powerful.
At some point The Original (later known as Happy Chaos) discovered the girl and realized that the world was being torn from its origin, and that, burdened with mankind's desires, she was on the verge of ascending to godhood. He reluctantly took away her human desire and with it half of her power, robbing her of her future to preserve that of humanity, leaving her with only her name.
The result was I-No, although she was completely unaware of her own nature. There are no other details regarding her past, but I-No—without knowing why, but fixated on changing the dull future that awaited humanity—took it upon herself to change their bleak future no matter what. At one point, I-No goes back in time to the Crusades and gets Ky killed, making humanity extinct; in another, she takes Sol back in time and makes him fight himself, trying to make him stop existing. Yet, no matter how many times she repeated history, the future always converged on a single point.
Signature Moves
Special Moves

Antidepressant Scale - I-No emits a musical projectile from her hat that can change trajectories.
Stroke the Big Tree - I-No dashes in low, then lashes out with sound magic.
Sultry Performance - I-No uses magic to dash through the air at various angles.
Chemical Love - I-No leaps into the air, striking with a spike of sound magic.
Sterilization Method - I-No meets her opponent in the air, choking them with her guitar cable.

Overdrives / Force Breaks

Megalomania - I-No summons a pair of magical amps, unleashing a swarm of homing projectiles at her helpless opponent. When she was the final boss of Guilty Gear XX, Megalomania was a special boss attack that did massive damage if you were within the targeted area when it went off.
Ultimate Fortissimo - I-No jumps into the air, releasing a huge magical shockwave originating from her hat.
Longing Desperation - I-No unleashes a pulse of energy to interrupt a foe's attack.
Homeostasis - I-No rockets upward in a spiral, taking her opponent with her for a huge combo.

Instant Kills

Megalomania - It's Megalomania, but now in enhanced Instant Kill form!
Last Will and Testament - I-No warps her enemy to a concert, where they're bounced between booming amps until they're killed.

Feats
Mouse over a feat to see its source. Non-Canon story feats are included for completion's sake, but will be marked to tell them apart.
Please note that due to the difficulty of tracking down quality translated sources for some of the older games and media, many of these clips will be presented in the form of fan-translated scripts. Other sources (like the light novels) may be missing entirely, as they have never been translated and I can't read Japanese.
Dimensional / Time Travel

Strength / Magical Power

Durability

Speed

Miscellaneous

Complete I-No
When I-No was created as an error in the Backyard, she was dangerously close to ascending to godlike power, so The Original split her in half, taking her desires and her future from her. That Man eventually created two Jack-O' units; one Jack-O' Valentine, and the other Happy Chaos. Jack-O' explained to I-No that Happy Chaos could make I-No whole again, but unbeknownst to her, That Man never actually finished Happy Chaos. All the same, the Original heard this name and liked it so much that he decided to take it as his own. Now Happy Chaos, he was absorbed into Ariels and found by I-No after Ariels' defeat and imprisonment at the hands of Sol Badguy and the kingdom of Illyria.
After the siege of the G4 summit in Guilty Gear -STRIVE-, Happy Chaos got ahold of the Tome of Origin, which would give him the knowledge necessary to fuse with I-No. The result was returning to I-No her other half, and granting her the godlike power that she had been denied upon her conception.

Noteworthy Scaling

"The god who made me did so with a tequila in hand. If he could do that, I can do anything. But what I want is simple: a future."

Edit: title is wrong savings should be $130, sorry.
This ILW again brings a series of Warbond CCUs that can be stacked to get savings on larger ships. Warbond CCUs must be purchased with cash (new money, not store credit), but the steps in between CAN be bought with store credit anytime, even after the event.

Item	Price	Ship Value Change	Savings
FURY	$50	50 > 55	$5
Arrow to Gladius	$5	75 > 90	$10
Cutlass Black to Nova	$10	100 > 120	$10
Hornet Ghost to Ballista	$5	125 > 140	$10
Prospector to Vulture	$5	155 > 175	$15
Constellation Taurus to Hurricane	$5	190 > 210	$15
Hurricane to Scorpius	$10	210 > 240	$20
Retaliator Bomber to Eclipse	$5	275 > 300	$20
Eclipse to Caterpillar	$5	300 > 330	$25

They can be chained together like this: (amounts marked "C" can be purchased with store credit, amounts marked with "$" are warbond and must be purchased with cash during ILW)
$50 Fury >(20 C) Arrow >($5) Gladius >(10 C) Cutlass Black >($10) Nova >(5 C) Hornet Ghost >($5) Ballista >(15 C) Prospector >($5) vulture >(15 C) Taurus >($5) Hurricane >($10) Scorpius >(35 C) Retaliator Bomber >($5) Eclipse >($5) Caterpillar

In this chain, the Retaliator Bomber is the only ship that you can upgrade to with credit that is NOT always available in the store. That means to do this chain you need to either buy the Scorpius to Retaliator Bomber ccu now during ILW with credit or cash, or wait until it is available again during another sale. I try to avoid these, but inserting another ship in the chain to eliminate this would push one of the warbond ccus out and result in less savings.
The rest of the ccus marked as "C" can be purchased at any time, even after the event, with store credit. That means if you melt a ship, you can use that credit to pay for this chain in "installments".
The result of this is a $330 dollar value LTI caterpillar, for an actual cost of $205. If you upgrade the Caterpillar further, it still has the $330 upgrade value, so your $125 savings carries forward.
Be advised that if you buy and apply all these steps, do not MELT the caterpillar or other resulting ship, or you will lose all the warbond ccu savings, have ONLY what you SPENT returned to you ($205) and ONLY be able to buy the FURY back from buyback. Once applied, it's a one time deal.
You can add the A2 ccu from the BMM if that's where you're going for another $75 dollars in savings, but unless the A2 IS the ship you want, there is no where to upgrade from there (until some of the large ships are released and go up in price). It is also a huge jump from the Cat to the BMM, and I wanted to keep this chain accessible to the most people possible.
If you understand this process, modify the chain with stops at ships you want along the way, or include other warbond CCUs you may have from other events. OR, wait for more warbond CCUs to be sold and fit those in for even more savings. The possible results of patience are truly amazing.

I will do my best to answer any questions and correct any mistakes pointed out.
Good luck and welcome to Hangar Citizen!

At 25 yrs old I stopped being friends with 3 out of the 4 people in my friend group (stoner circle), due to quitting smoking and realizing they haven’t been friends to me at all.
1- tried to hookup with my ex- instant cut off 2- left me behind while on vacation and got on the plane back home without me, and refused to give me back the couple hundred I loaned him while on vacation-cut off. 3- When I quit smoking he was making jokes about how I can’t do it, inviting me to come smoke, etc, and basically never hit me up again once I actually stopped smoking. I’ve spent my 18-25 years keeping bad company.
How do I go about meeting new people and making new friends, even if I’m 28? I can’t be the only one who realized their highschool friends were trash and wants new friends?

I think I'm done. And so is my relationship. I gave up. Honestly caring for myself and having to care for someone else is too much for me. Having to love myself and love someone else is also too much. Add ROCD and what do i have to hold onto? I've doubted my attraction towards my partner since the start of the relationship. And have gone through all the other themes you can think of. Do I really love my partner. Do I love them enough. Do I really care about them. Am I narcissist. Am I only using them for sex. Do I like her enough. Did I lose feelings. Do I still like her personality. The list goes on. But this constant doubt. Plus having to work to pay for ny partners and I'm place. Pay all the bills. Having a 1 year old babe. Which doesn't let her or me really do anything. Plus feeling depressed all the time. Having responsibilities. There is no time for a relationship or love in between any of that it seems. And it has me depressed. I feel like I lost her. And I don't know how to get her back. I feel like I lost feelings for her. I can't find her personality intersting or amazing like i used to anymore. I can't seem to care about her. Let alone even feel like I love her. She just feels like some random person. I'd like to add that there's no one in my life that I can confidently say I love or have ever loved. I don't love or care about anyone. And I don't want to be this way. But I feel like no matter how hard I try I'm just stuck. I've never really felt love only infatuation or curiousity of the unknown in my life. Sometimes I get triggered by her. I feel like i dont want her and try to avoid her because i might get triggered. I get triggered by her voice, her looks, the doubts going on in my head and take it out on her. Just to regret it after. I'm tired or always apologizing and sounding like a liar. Because let's face it. Actions speak louder than words and I'm trash. I can't even apologize anymore because what good what it really do. For all I know she can be out going out with someone else who's a better guy than I am behind my back. And I can't be upset about it because I deserve it.
I feel hopeless.
I am going to therapy. And i don't know what happened and how I got here. I need some advice on what to do or anyone that has gone a through a similar situation is going through something like this. I'm lost.

I got a message from my teacher today saying she ran my assignments through multiple AI detectors and they came back as AI written. I ran those same assignments through OpenAI’s detector and 3 of the 4 assignments came back as unlikely to be AI written.
At the beginning of the quarter, the teacher made a written announcement (online class) saying “Using ChatGPT is permissible, however. This is an important point. But know when and how to use it; if you're stuck on an idea, you might ask ChatGPT to help you generate ideas for an assignment or even write an introduction. But then you need to go in and insert YOUR VOICE into the material and eventually make the writing YOURS. Like Turnitin similarity scores, a low ChatGPT score of 25% or less is acceptable. But when we get into the 30% range and more, the paper slowly ceases to be known as "human written."”
Only one of my assignments has a high turnitin score and it’s an annotated bibliography. She’s now saying that she will likely have to report this. I also ran her assignments descriptions through the OpenAI detector and a few of them scored higher than even my assignments.
How should I approach this? I can either deny and essentially gaslight her and discredit the AI detectors or admit to using it because she said it was permissible and, again, discredit the AI detector. Are there other options I’m not seeing?
I’ve already submitted for a withdrawal from the class due to other issues and I will likely get approved.

I’m going to try and make this short but it might be hard due to the details.
My son is almost 25 years old. Him and I have had years of issues going back to him being about 11 or 12 years old. So many things, it’s exhausting to think of them all or even look back and try to make sense of them. So, here I go.
He moved out when he was 17 because I told him he can either follow rules, go to school, respect my house, or leave. He didn’t graduate, he never got his drivers license, just never really accomplished anything.
Fast forward to 7 years later, he’s almost 25. He has been back with me twice during this time and neither one were long term due to him not making any attempts to do anything. Even the simplest things such as, keeping the room clean, throwing away trash, food, etc. The last time I kicked him out, he was 19. He went to stay with my oldest daughter for a while, then his dad, neither situations worked out and were very short term. Oh and he didn’t talk to me for two of those years after I kicked him out. Here we are in 2023, he called and I found out he has a six month old daughter. Has been living with the daughters mother and working but recently got fired. Daughters mother has now kicked him out. Still has no license. Of course I tell him he can temporarily stay here to get back on his feet. He did get a job but he has to ride a bike there as he has no license and no car. He has been going back and forth to court trying to get visitation to see his daughter, which he now has visitation. After all of this, he lost his new job. Tried to apply for another and got all the way through the process but failed the drug screen (THC). Stays in the room all day and night playing his video games. Promises me he will get a job and has been applying.
He is better at keeping things cleaned up but I still have to ask him about taking his things to the trash, cleaning the room, etc. He is also quite arrogant and disrespectful sometimes. I told him if I was in his situation, I would definitely show more respect for the people who are trying to help me.
I am just done. Worn out completely and I haven’t even mentioned yet that I have a husband who is growing very tired of this as well. I also have two other grown kids that are wonderful, hard working people. I get tired of hearing the whole “if he was raised better” because it’s just not always the case. I raised three children in the same home and two of them are fine. I just don’t understand this. I don’t know what to do. I have no idea where he will go and he will probably stop talking to me again but I’m ready to give up and tell him to go.

Contact JahCoin#5396 - Or join https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies if interested!
What can this be used for? - Boosting your mw2 stats - Levelling up any guns - Maxing out all your weapons easily - No grind needed for your camos easily obtian gold, platinum, Polyatomic and Orion with just a few games
How does it work? - All bots are run off PS5s, and are completely safe to play against. - They'll stand more or less still, moving periodically to avoid AFK timers. - They'll fire randomly, but never attack you. - It's completely safe for you. All the kills and stats you get in game will count as if it were a real match.
NORMAL / SHIPMENT BOT LOBBY PRICES: - 1 Bot Lobby - $7 - 3 Bot Lobbies - $20 - 5 Bot Lobbies - $29 - 10 Bot Lobbies - $57 - 20 Bot Lobbies - $105 - 50 Bot Lobbies - $240
LONGSHOT BOT LOBBY PRICES: - 1 Longshot Bot Lobby - $11 - 3 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $30 - 5 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $47 - 10 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $87 - 20 Longshot Bot Lobbies - $165
NUKE SERVICE - Get the calling card, skin, and emblem! - $85 - ( will need account details, can be done in ~a day )
PAYMENT METHODS - PAYPAL THROUGH FRIENDS AND FAMILY AND MOST MAJOR CRYPTOCURRENCIES ARE ACCEPTED
RULES / MUST READ - 1.If there is another player running around Do Not Kill! They are not a bot, bots will all have the same operator for easy identification! - 2.Never use any Player Killing kill-streaks! Replace your streaks for a UAV and Advanced UAV only! This is going to help speed up your kills and tracking of the players. Do not use counter UAVs, SAEs, Chopper Gunners, VTOLs, Ect. You may effect the lobby of the another person. - 3.Equip a grenade! Equip a Tactical Insert! Equip Scavenger Perk for ammunition. Equip Eagle Eye! When you have 20-25 kills (shortly after an advanced UAV is recommended so you don't accidently NUKE), place a Tactical Insert near the spawn to avoid running around and run 15 feet to kill yourself, and pull your standard grenade and hold in hand until it blows. - 4.Never use nuke! Nuke will end the game, and nuke is a high risk of being banned. You may be penalized one game if you call in a nuke.
Notice of how to play: Domination: Spawn and capture your nearest flag. Avoid B. Run to their spawn and murder! Capturing B will cause the game to end faster. This is at your own cost!
Discord: JahCoin#5396 - Discord with Vouches: https://discord.gg/mw2lobbies

Hello all,
I'm currently looking to redo my kitchen and am shopping for new kitchen cabinets.
I'm near the south shore in Nassau but I'm willing to go just about anywhere.
While obviously I want the best deal I can find I also want to make sure I'm getting good quality stuff, nothing cheaply made.
Appreciate any recommendations you all can give me.

This happened a few years ago and I did get scammed for $100 .... but it was just an expensive lesson.
I was online somewhere and saw an advertisement for a $600 commercial food dehydrator for $99.99 shipped! (This should of been my signal that it's a scam .... and I thought it must be ..... but I stupidly paid through PayPal believing it provided protection ...... It was and PayPal didn't protect.
After payment I receive a notification and confirmation of purchase via email, but im very suspicious. The next day I recieve a shipping notice with FedEx tracking #. I go directly to FedEx site and manually insert tracking # ..... And it appears legit, so I sign up for FedEx tracking updates.
Later that day FedEx notifies me that they have recieved package and it's scheduled for tenative delivery tomorrow..... ok, so far so good
The next day around noon I recieve a FedEx notice that package is delivered! But upon checking my front door ..... nothing! I then go back on FedEx site and input the tracking manually and it indeed shows delivered to my address ..... but upon closer scrutiny, it shows package weight at 1 lb ...... this dehydrator is much, much heavier obviously.
I call FedEx and all they can do is confirm what their tracking info says. I assume a letter or envelope was delivered so the scammers have proof of receipt ...... But I got zilch, zero, nothing from FedEx!
I then file with PayPal and include the tracking info showing package weight at 1 lb ..... which is obviously not what this product weighs and also state that regardless what their tracking says ..... I didnt even receive as much as a single piece of paper.
After PayPal "investigation" they find against me saying seller provided proof of delivery! Escalation of this issue resulted in same result.
My question is ..... How did they get access to FedEx tracking system, modify it fraudulently, and yet we're stupid enough to not make the tracking reflect somewhere closer to a realistic weight for the product? If they can manipulate the FedEx tracking system then the whole tracking system including any "proof of delivery" claims are all suspect and open to fraudulent hackers resulting in chaos no??
Lessons learned..... Greed will always sink you ..... if it seems too good to be true it is ..... and never, ever pay via PayPal expecting any type of "protection" and always pay only via credit card for anything online.

Should I communicate this to the teacher?
I am a senior. I have a presentation in front of her and other staff members that is due on 3/31 afterschool (she hasn’t told us the time yet.) We are being graded and have access to the rubric. We have to ensure that our bullet points are short and concise, have good delivery, show enthusiasm about the topic, etc. I am nervous because I have been out of school for the past week after the sub for our class threw up in a trash can - I haven’t thrown up but have spent most of the week at home feeling nauseous and feel like I haven’t had as much time as everyone else to prepare for the presentation. I intend to finalize my slides today and should be back in school tomorrow, but this is giving me anxiety even though I have my info down and turned the white paper in on time because I feel like I haven’t had enough time to work on this due to my stomach issues.

This might end up being fairly long and if so I apologize in advance but I hope this ends up being as cathartic as I’m hoping.
Let’s start at the beginning. I wasn’t a good husband... hell I probably wasn't even a good person. I was selfish, inattentive to her needs, hid a painkiller addiction for many years and a copious amount of other issues. I wasn’t perfect though neither was she. We were happy though and together for a decade. I’ll preface this by saying that I’m the most non-jealous person in the world. I don’t care what you do with your friends, where you do it, and when as long as your honest. For example let’s say one of her friends invited her to go out of town or to do something for a weekend, it was like “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go out of town with insert name here” and vice versa for me “hey are we doing anything this weekend? No? Okay I’m gonna go hunting with insert name here”. All that being said, again, not jealous AT ALL, but after the divorce and subsequent relationship I think my trust with SO coworkers is irreparably damaged.
His name was Joe, I heard through some of her other coworker friends he had a crush on my wife. Whatever, she got cheated on with her first love and couldn’t even watch movies or shows where someone cheats it would make her so angry. So I never thought twice about her going out with her coworkers. Now again, let me say I was not a good husband towards the end, and it took a long time and a lot of hurt and anger had to be let go to where I finally realized that I don’t fault her for finding solace in the arms of another, because she was a damn good wife, a damn good mother, and an even better husband. And she deserved better. I relapsed after an incredibly awful start to 2018. I went and stayed at my moms and had to go over to the house to get some things. Her and my daughter were gone somewhere but her Apple Watch was there. My gut told me what I already knew, and what I knew was that I shouldn't look through it knowing what I would find. What did I find? That she was filing for divorce the next week and plenty of messages to Joe. I knew it was only a matter of time before they ended up together. Can you guess what happened? I had a decent amount of money saved up so I took a sabbatical from work that ended extending to almost two years
December 2018, Christmas morning. I had a plan, it was foolproof. I was going to facetime my daughter in the morning to tell her how much I loved her and missed her and had a very merry Christmas... and then I was going to go in my backyard and blow my brains out. So thats what I did. I called her, talked to her as best you can to a three year old in the midst of a post present high with her cousins there too. Then I walked out in my backyard with my favorite rifle and sat there. And sat there. And sat there. For six hours. I cried, I wept... I wept for me, for my kid who was going to grow up without her daddy. I wept for my ex-wife who was going to have to explain to my daughter why she wouldn't be able to see her daddy again. I wept for my family and the pain I was about to cause them I begged and screamed to God. That if they were real and I was meant for things in this life that they would show me a fucking sign. Show me ANYTHING that would show me whether this drastic choice would be the right one... or the wrong. For six hours in the freezing cold. Never did get an answer that I could recognize as one. But the thought of my kid calling the person my wife had AT LEAST an emotional affair with, "Dad" made me sick... and made me want to live.
I decided to check into rehab, not for drugs, but so I didn't kill myself. Ive always kind of been a natural leader. I don't know why or what it is about me but people tend to flock towards me and have really either one or two reactions. They either really like me, or they really fucking hate me. Here though everyone really liked me and I was put in charge of running the meetings held there and trying to keep morale of the folks there. And it was a great fucking time. It was a month vacation in a really nice area of the state, I didn't have a phone, only my guitar and the resolve to work through my emotions in a safe place the best way I know how, by writing songs about it. Which is exactly what I did both in the classes, AA Meetings, out of class, didn't matter I was just knocking out song after song. I met a kid in there with a killer voice and a guy around my age who actually was the lead singesongwriter for a local band I was a fan of so it ended up being a really enjoyable experience.. The kid though... he got murdered last year from a drug deal gone wrong. Shot in a car and left to die in the parking lot. I think about him almost every day.
What did I learn? I learned that I shouldn't go looking for things I don't want to find, or ask questions that I really want the true answer to. Or so I thought.
I met K in December 2020 on Hinge. I wasn't sure I was really over my ex wife but then when we met it was love at first sight. And for a guy that didn't think he was ever going to love anyone again it was a major deal. She felt the same it seemed, though I now realize it was probably more of a trauma bond/rebound type situation. Things went really well for the honeymoon phase, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. She was a cheer coach/art teacher, it was new, it was exciting, the sex was great.. she was great... She had some pretty serious insecurities and abandonment issues though. Her mom dropped her off with what ended up being her adoptive family only to come back a few years later and take her away for a few months, then bring her back and drop her off again. She self sabotages and destroys anything good in her life for fear or being hurt and left by someone again. And she only dated guys that controlled her, treated her like shit, stole from her, etc etc. She took xanax and ambien which when it would kick in at first it seemed she was still cognizant. One night when I was staying over there she had taken it and asked me to look something up in her phone. As soon as I open it I see a text to a coach at the school she taught at that was just really inappropriate shit that made me feel uncomfortable, especially since he was married. I asked her about it when she off work the next day and she just downplayed it as they are wont to do. I let it go but its something I thought of often, especially after it ended.
We moved in together in August of 21. I helped her get a job at a school over on my side of town so we got a really nice apartment close to her work and not far from mine. Thats when things started to change. I'll never forget we were laying in bed on a Friday afternoon, I was about to go pick up my kid. I rolled over towards her side and propped myself up and looked at her for a second and thought how lucky am I, and so thats what I said out loud to her. Its like she recoiled like she got bit by a snake, bolted out of bed and said I was being clingy and essentially ran out the door where she ended up back on the other side of town and had dinner with a gay guy friend. I really didn't know what to do or how to take it so when I picked my kid up I took her over to my moms house and we stayed there until K called and asked me to come home so we could talk. I left my kid with my mom and went over there and she apologized and reiterated how she feels in relationships, the fear of being left, how independent she had to be because of her upbringing and a few other things.
Not long after that she forwarded me an email, I'm not even sure what she meant to send me if she even meant it to send to me because I never got around to asking. It was an email thread with the coach where she said "guess what?", "What? You're gonna have my baby?" "No I got Covid!". I confronted her about it, told her how it made me feel, and while she never really responded to it in a way that made me worry I still strongly disliked it and let her know that. Not long after that as we were laying in bed I saw she was texting someone exceptionally long paragraphs, you know the type, the type when you're first talking to someone and are explaining things about yourself to them? I'll spare the long part but come to find out shes found a new coach to have what appears to be an emotional affair with. Though come to find out this one ended up being physical. She broke up with me in January 22. Told me while I showed her love in a way she didn't know was possible, and treated her in a way nobody had ever treated her before that I was too good for her and deserved better. I tried to change her mind, lord knows I tried, I was madly in love. My kid was in love with her. We talked about a future I never thought possible after my divorce.
I moved out of the apartment and back to my moms until I could find a place. We talked occasionally and I spent so much time reading this sub and others. Posts about how to get her back, how to make her miss me, what to do and what not to do. When my work sabbatical ended I got my old job back. Its a great job, ridiculously easy and the amount of work I actually do compared to my compensation should be illegal. She lost her cheer stipend when we moved back to my side of town since she didn't coach and since we got the apt together I knew what her funds looked like. We got that place because we could afford it together, alone I knew she was going to struggle. And I still wanted her back... what better way to show her that and try to manifest it by just being there for her when she needed me? Little did I know that would be the only time she asked me anything. Only when she needed help, or was having an anxiety attack and needed someone to talk her off the ledge and tell her everything was going to be okay. It was never her asking how I was doing, or my kid, or my dog, or what was going on in my life. Everyone told me what my gut had already told me but I lied to myself over and over. Not long after all this happened I found out she had been seeing the new coach at the new school though she still won't admit it even up to... checks notes today.
March 23 I get my first really big commission check I gave her 10k and we paid off her credit card, some other debt she had, some missed car payments and other bill help. Not long after that she tells me shes going to a cabin nearby where shes from with her sisters and nieces/nephews and asks me to watch her dog which I miss just as much as her so I do it. Mind you previous to this we went through a rough spot and she had blocked me on IG and never unblocked me. One of my cousins still followed her though, she hits me on snapchat saying "oh wow K looks amazing" I say "Oh yeah, does the cabin look nice?" She said "Cabin? Looks like shes at the beach" and sends me a screenshot of her IG post. I do my best FBI investigation and zoom in on her glasses, it appears to be a guy taking the picture based on the reflection from the frames and I kind of have an idea who I think it could be, come to find out, we'll call him JMJ also happens to be in Florida at the same time. So I call her out and tell her she needs to find someone to come get her dog and I'm done with her and her lies. She tells me "Oh my mom and dad are traveling across the country in their RV (WHICH THEY WERE) and so when you sent me that extra money after we paid the bills my sister and I decided to fly to Florida to spend some time with them on Spring Break"
She then breaks down and tells me how shes ruined the relationship with the last genuine person in her life and that when she gets back she'll get her dog and I'll never hear from her again. Master manipulator and while shes an amazing liar to someone who wants with every fiber of his being to believe him, is awful at hiding her lies. What do I do? Well I'm a fucking idiot so you can already imagine what I did. I begged her for once to just be honest with me. For once in our entire two years going back and forth that if she ever did truly love me or respect me for things I did for her that she would be honest. She told shes not dating anyone and doesn't have a boyfriend and that nothing has changed. I told her that even if she was seeing someone and told me about it I would help her out one last time only because I had committed to it. I told myself I was doing it for altruistic reasons, that because of all her issues that if I can do for her what I said I would do for her and that would help her out in her future relationships to show her that not everybody is it out to just fuck her and leave her, that when some people tell you they'll do something for you they mean it and she stops self sabotaging then I did my part.
A couple weeks ago was her 30th birthday. I see if she wants to grab dinner but she says one of her girl teacher friends is taking her to dinner in the galleria area. Check the guys IG story via an anonymous viewer and guess who happens to be at a restaurant in the galleria area? I don't even call her out because at this point Im making a plan. I get another rather large check in July and so we had previously talked about paying off the rest of her debt. She tells me shes going to her parents house for MDW and then that shes going out of town today with one of her old friends to New Orleans. This is when I realize just whats about to happen. Im about to have the answer to the question I thought I was dying to know the answer to. I told myself if he posts an IG story today where hes traveling, there is 0% chance that shes not with him. The first thing I see when I open IG is he posted a story... in Cancun. Then the next picture I see... her phone on the table next to him. Bingo. Send her an email saying "Hey I hope you have fun in Cancun!" and that was it. Almost immediately she texts me asking how I know and figured it out and I just saw red. I immediately opened up IG and sent him a message with texts, receipts, bank transfers, her telling me that she still loves me and we can go take a trip this summer, how many times shes asked me for money and help and the lies shes told me about him. She asks me to stop messaging him and I say that shes forever lost the option to ask ANYTHING of me but realize what Im doing is not the right thing and is hella immature so I send her another email saying I'm sorry and out of respect for her I wont say anything else to him.
Then he sends me a message on IG asking to elaborate more and then told me she told him I owed her a lot of money... I asked how much and for what and he said $2k for bills when we first got together. Thats when I sent him an entire list of all bank transactions through our bank and Apple Pay. Just digital alone, $18.647.00 over the last six months plus another $12,460.00 in cash over the last eight months. Then I realized just how little better this made me feel. In fact I thought I would feel triumphant, and ready to move on and finally be over her and start to heal. Knowing full damn and well keeping her around and helping her was keeping me from being able to heal and move on. I sent her another message telling her I was taking the last part of her birthday gift to her apartment and leaving it in the ottoman outside her door and that because I had already accounted for and mentally prepared for giving her money in July that I still would then I blocked and removed her from IG and anything else that would open up an avenue for contact.
Here we are. Starting NC again... a year and a half after we broke up all because I thought I needed the answers to what I didn't want to find out or know. And that yet again, my gut has yet to lie to me in regards to relationships. What is wrong with me? Why even after all of this do I still want her in my life and want her back? If she called me tomorrow needing help I'd probably still do it. How do I fix myself? I've gotten an entire new wardrobe, an entire home gym so I quit blaming my depression for why I didn't go to the gym, and have tried really hard to focus on myself yet I know deep down everything I'm doing, I'm still doing for hopes of her. I lied to myself and clouded my own gut and mind to listen to my heart when I knew what I already knew yet still felt the need to confirm it.
Its not worth it. IT. IS.NOT. WORTH. IT. Keep that door closed if you don't want to know whats on the other side. Don't open that book if you don't want to see whats written on that last page. If your gut is telling you something, its probably right. Listen to it. When your friends and family are telling you the same thing your gut is telling you, listen to them. Even if its killing you, even if its the last thing you want to do, even if its going to break your heart again and reopen any wounds for you to bleed out again it has to be done. Don't be like me. Don't prolong your suffering for a year and a half for hope that you know isn't going to shake out in your way regardless of what the other person might be telling you.

Hi,
As an intermediate with VMWare, i’m trying to learn vSAN at home. I bought couple of disk to insert in my 2 VMWare servers (7.0.3 and 8.0.1). I have difficulty to configure the network I will use. My 2 servers have almost the same config:

Gb ports with vlans for VM traffic
1x 10Gb interface currently connected directly between hosts for vMotion
1x 10Gb connected to a switch to access to my NAS and iSCSI disks

I’m looking the best way to connect everything but is seems all 3 services does not live well together on a same interface (vMotion, vSAN, iSCSI)
Have you any documentation, similar configuration or anything helpfull, I can try to add vSAN services between my hosts without loosing anything I currently have.
Thank you,

I have a grandmother who I love dearly but who tries to convince me of a conspiracy theory nearly every time I visit her or talk to her on the phone and it can be very frustrating to listen to without getting argumentative and puts stress on our relationship.
Most of her conspiracy beliefs revolve around Covid. For example, she’s convinced that the vaccine was created by Bill Gates and Fauci to kill people and reduce the population. She has a close friend who got a blood clot not too long after being vaccinated and that gave her all the validation she needed to cling to that belief.
I recently visited her and I had a minor cold and she tried to get me to take a dose of ivermectin claiming that she takes a pill every day and it’s prevented her from getting sick. I had to argue with her in order to get her to back off and stop trying to get me to take it.
She’s also convinced that a huge famine is on the horizon and all her cabinets in her house have food stored in them and she bought me a set of containers so I can also start prepping.
She wasn’t always like this (although she was susceptible to having fringe beliefs in the past) but Covid took it a whole new level and I can’t get her to stop pushing all these conspiracy theories on me.
I respect her right to live as she pleases but I don’t want to have to listen to all these wonky theories every time I speak with her.

Not my story, but I was a witness. This happened about five years ago and I'd completely forgotten about it until I went back to the scene a week or so ago.
I live in a city in the UK that's in no shortage of entitled people. I have my own stories, including one or two I've posted before, but this one was on another level. Close to the high street and the malls is a shop that SPECIFICALLY sells acoustic musical instruments—mostly guitars, drums, and a lot of folk instruments like lutes and mandolins. They also sell really niche, hard-to-find instruments including second hand ones, and depending on what they have in stock these instruments can be really niche.
About five years ago during the summer, I had some time to kill in town before I met a friend down the road so I went into this shop just to browse. I have zero musical ability but I'd always wanted to check this place out. In the back of the shop I saw an instrument that I now know to be a Chinese guzheng, a flat-laying string instrument with about 20+ strings. This one in particular was over five feet long, and even though it had some metal parts and some pearly-looking decorative insets, the bulk of the body was a polished dark wood. It was BEAUTIFUL to look at, and even though the shop has a policy where people can play any of the instruments as long as they're careful, I couldn't bring myself to touch it—especially when I saw it was priced at over £500, even marked second hand. Of course there were other fascinating instruments and other things in the shop, but the guzheng is the star of this particular story.
After about ten minutes browsing the shop, listening to people picking up instruments and jamming with the super chill owner (CO), I get ready to leave. But before I do, in comes EM and her little hellspawn, EK, who looks to be about 6 years old. EK immediately starts running around the shop poking at various display instruments while EM just hangs out by the door on her phone. Obviously EK was the one that wanted to be here, and EM couldn't give two shits. CO immediately stiffens and watches the kid as he runs around this really densely packed shop, trying to grab anything he can reach, giggling and shrieking with unchecked energy. EM still stays within a few meters of the door, on her phone.
Now remember when I said the guzheng is a flat-laying instrument? It's usually played on a table or a mount, and this one was rested on two sets of legs that held it pretty low to the floor—at 6-year-old height. EK sees it and barges over, starting to pick at the strings wildly. It's… awful to listen to. And even though he's been patient so far, this is where CO steps in.
CO: Miss, your son is--
EM: He's just playing. Just leave him alone. He'll get bored in a minute.
CO: But that instrument is really expensive. We have some children's guitars over there that he might like to--
EK: Mummy! I want the big guitar!
EM: No, EK, you don't even know how to play it. Now come on or we'll be late.
EK: But Mummyyyyy! I waaaaaaant iiiiiiit!
This is where it all goes south. EK grabs the guzheng and tries to take it off the legs. But this thing is taller than some full-grown adults, and it is a CHONKY beast. I guess this kid had enough freaky 6-year-old strength to lift it off one of the two legs before he let go of it completely. The guzheng crashes onto the floor, and the sound it makes is AWFUL. It's completely split down the middle of its length and at least one of the strings has split. It was probably quite old so it might have been more fragile than it should've been, but even so it's trashed, completely ruined. EK just starts freaking out. He's screaming, crying, and he runs straight back to EM.
CO: Oh, God! Are you okay? EM, is he okay?
EM: Of course he's not okay! That piece of rubbish could've crushed his feet!
(His feet were fine. He literally just sprinted across the shop back to EM, clearly in no pain at all.)
EK: I wanna go home, Mummy! Take me hooome!
EM: Come on, EK. If he's hurt himself in any way, I'll sue you for everything you've got.
CO: Hang on! That guzheng is completely wrecked!
EM: So what? It's just a weird guitar. If it was worth that much you should've had it insured.
CO: It's not a guitar. It's a Chinese guzheng and it was second hand! It was still worth over £500!
EM: Five hundred pounds for a chunk of wood?! You're joking! It sounded awful! If you think I'm paying for some used, overpriced Chinese rubbish you've got another thing coming.
It's at this point that I notice one CO's employees, CE, has come down from upstairs to see what's going on. Fun fact: the city I live in houses students from five different universities including two within a mile of each other, and these universities take in a lot of international students that are allowed to take part-time work in the city. CE is clearly student age just by looking at him. He also happened to be East Asian—and just going by statistics of the city here, most likely Chinese. EM also seems to notice CE standing there. She immediately pulls her phone out and points at CE with her other hand. She's going red in the face, moving herself closer to the door and pushing EK outside while she confronts the CO and CE.
EM: Was that thing yours, huh? You bring it with you from China? Fuck you, and fuck you if you think I owe you anything. My son's feet are probably broken and if I hear anything about this or see either of you again, I'll sue you (CO) for negligence and have you (CE) shipped right back where you came from. I've got you both on camera! I know who you are!
With that, she charges out the door, grabs EK by the wrist and bolts down the street. CO and CE just look absolutely shattered. The other people in the shop, including me, offer to help clean up, ask if they're okay. After a few minutes, I had to leave them to it as I was already late to meet my friend. In the end I never followed up on the situation, but five years later CO is still running the shop so clearly nothing happened to them. I took my now-partner in there a couple weeks ago, and they had not one but TWO absolutely beautiful guzhengs for sale.

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"This is a stage... there's such a thing called a role. Trash should be stepped on like trash... and those with power bathe in the spotlight, burning. Come now, everyone... the show is about to begin."

"The god who made me did so with a tequila in hand. If he could do that, I can do anything. But what I want is simple: a future."